It’s Not Easy

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I was in a toxic work environment for years, and I knew it. One way I adapted was by becoming even more conciliatory than I already was, so that even when I was working with the folks with the biggest egos, they could never say I was rude. That meant saying sorry for problems, or offering there “may have been a miscommunication,” even when I knew I wasn’t at fault. It was better than dealing with blow ups. I’m committed to breaking this pattern. It’s easier now that I don’t have to deal with the same people every day, but…


Don’t Miss These 12 Tax Deductions for the Self-Employed

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I’ve been freelancing for six years, but have never been good at saving my receipts — until this year. My freelance gigs were a side business. It was only after making consulting my full time job that I realized I needed to be more diligent about tracking my expenses. The self-employment tax is 15.3% on your net earnings, but any “ordinary and necessary” business expense that you can back up, you can deduct from your income to calculate your net profit. …


The Power of Someone Else’s False Memory

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There’s no place I’m more at home than in the water. One of the reasons I love traveling so much is the prospect of a hot tub at the hotel. Some of my fondest memories are doing cannonballs with my best friend Maria into her grandparents’ pool after school, and spending all day with my own grandparents at the Marriott, where they had a pool membership. My grandpa taught me how to swim there, and grandma taught me how to float. …


Decoding My Ex’s Sorry

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I’ve done stuff I regret over the years, but deciding in the middle of the night to email an ex who’d just ghosted me makes my top 10 list for sure. As you may have guessed, my guard was down thanks to some wine and a friend egging me on. I’d been desperate for some sort of communication to help me decipher what was happening, but wound up feeling embarrassed by a weak burn that didn’t come out right. Surprisingly, I did get a reply, and it was an unexpected one. …


Come Science with Me

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For the past decade, the pro-life movement has thrown its lobbying power behind so-called “heartbeat bills,” which prohibit abortion beyond six weeks of pregnancy. It’s a smart tactic. Not only would this essentially prevent the majority of abortions, it’s also a strong emotional argument by which to gather supporters and donations. With the Supreme Court potentially overturning Roe v Wade’s viability standard this fall, it’s important that we who support choice understand exactly why “heartbeat bills” are propaganda, and have facts at our disposal.

There are three main reasons for why these bans would stop so…


The Easier Way to Return to a Plant-based Diet

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Summer’s nearly here, bringing sweet cherries, juicy strawberries, crisp watermelon, fragrant peaches, and some of the freshest veggies of the year. If you’ve ever considered going vegan, now’s the perfect time to give it a go. And if you plan to put a slice of tomato on a veggie burger topped with an American-style slice with a side of veggie chips, you’re still doing great.

Will you lose weight? Maybe. There are certainly nutritional advantages to getting more fiber and vitamins. Will you help save the planet? Absolutely! A 2018 study…


The Significance of Monday’s Supreme Court Decision to Take Up a Mississippi Ban After 15 Weeks

Abortion is much older than many people realize. Ancient and preindustrial societies not only used, but accepted aboriton. Linda Gordon in her 2002 book The Moral Property of Women reveals, “One anthropological collection of tribal studies, the Human Relations Area Files, found that 62 percent, or 125 of 200 groups, used abortion. Considering that anthropologists often didn’t ask, or couldn’t find out, about abortion, that is almost certainly an underestimate.” Abortion was even legal in the United States until the mid-to-late 1800s, and commonly…


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TW: eating disorder

Do you ever get a feeling in your gut that something is deeply wrong? I had that feeling for 15 years. It started a few days after I returned from my first trip abroad as part of an arts program in college. My friend Ellary and I were seated next to a man who was ripe, and also seemingly very ill with the flu. I wish I had the experience to ask if we could change our seats; I wasn’t a seasoned traveler. Of course, we didn’t want to be rude. I’d often thought that if I…

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A specialist in gender studies, I mainly write about trauma from a learning and understanding perspective. I also explore my newly-diagnosed narcolepsy.

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